What often passes for love is really attachment. People fall in attachment and mistake that for falling in love because they are attracted to the grieving that follows.
In fact, worldly wisdom insists that people grieve because they love deeply as if love really is something that leads to pain.
But any form of love that can lead to pain was never really love at all. It’s only a make-believe substitute for love projected from a mind that mistakenly believes it has cut itself off from true love.
No one falls in love, but it is possible to rise in love out of the shallowness of attachment to false love.
There is no grieving in Love. When you find yourself grieving, it can be resolved if you simply accept no thought that says you are grieving because of love or because of anything other than mistaken self-belief.
Unwillingness to have the cause of grieving healed is due to mental defenses set up to protect this important ego device which makes love fearful and fulfills the secret wish to keep the dream of death alive.
Grieving is not a normal part of life. It's what people think they deserve, and so they seek it out through the particulars of their lives and then use those particulars and their concept of love as justification for the grieving that ensues.
This doesn't mean that grieving is wrong or bad, or that anyone is less spiritual if they find themselves grieving.
Grieving has an important purpose. It presents an opportunity to heal what caused it, thus allowing you to reclaim the kind of love you are truly worthy of.
All it takes is a little bit of willingness to stop agreeing with thoughts that seem to justify grieving, especially when you find yourself in the midst of grieving.