Communication is beyond words. It’s the way of demonstrating to your own mind that you are Divine and invulnerable to worldly effects.
Whenever you find yourself wanting communication it’s because you’re already projecting yourself as limited and vulnerable, whilst imagining that someone outside of you is responsible for your feeling separate.
People can feel you. When you think you are wanting communication, what you are really looking for is an argument because you are already in an argument with yourself.
Your kids and other people pick up on that, and unless they are looking for an argument like you, it's going to look like they are avoiding you.
So, when you feel avoided, you can make a conscious choice to get that feeling effect instead of pursuing communication with a person. When you are willing to get that feeling effect, it demonstrates to your mind that you are willing to learn how to truly communicate even in the midst of perceiving that communication is lacking.
As you rediscover your ability to communicate truly, you will rejoice with every appearance of you wanting communication and not getting it, because of the opportunity it presents for demonstrating who you really are, and thereby allowing your mistaken self-belief to get corrected.
As you enjoy your ability to communicate more and more, your mind will become calm and clear as a result.
In the outer world, your kids and others will seem respond with willingness to communicate with you, without your insistence that they do.