Your escape from this world depends on your acceptance of all
“others” as your Savior. “Others” includes your body and projected mind (who
you think you are).
There is truly no one other than yourself. The others that occur
to you are only projections of mistaken self-belief.
Hating, attaching to them or fearing them makes the mistaken
self-belief real for you, which ties you to this world. But loving them as yourself
How do you love all
others as yourself? Watch how you seem to feel about them. That’s how the
mistaken self-belief is making you feel about yourself.
The tendency is to hide from feeling the effects of mistaken
self-belief by projecting those feeling effects onto others, but you can make
another choice at any given moment.
The choice for your release from this dream of death takes a
little bit of willingness to feel the effects of projecting for yourself.
How do you know when
you’re projecting? There is a sense of irritation, uncomfort or pain, whether
physical or emotional.
Any sense that denies joy is only upheld by your choice to
project thought. It’s a conscious choice, although it’s common to consciously
hide it from yourself as well.
Be mindful of your projecting and willing to feel it. Don’t try
to stop projecting or argue with it, but turn your attention toward feeling,
physical or emotional. Pinch yourself if you need to.
That’s all there is to it. Keep up with the practice and in time
all of this will be undone and give way to what’s always been.
What often passes for
love is really attachment. People fall in attachment and mistake that for
falling in love because they are attracted to the grieving that follows.
In fact, worldly wisdom
insists that people grieve because they love deeply as if love really is
something that leads to pain.
But any form of love
that can lead to pain was never really love at all. It’s only a make-believe
substitute for love projected from a mind that mistakenly believes it has cut
itself off from true love.
No one falls in love, but it is possible to
rise in love out of the shallowness of attachment to false love.
There is no grieving in Love. When you find
yourself grieving, it can be resolved if you simply accept no thought that says
you are grieving because of love or because of anything other than mistaken
Unwillingness to have the cause of
grieving healed is due to mental defenses set up to protect this important ego
device which makes love fearful and fulfills the secret wish to keep the dream
of death alive.
Grieving is not a normal part of life. It’s what people think
they deserve, and so they seek it out through the particulars of their lives
and then use those particulars and their concept of love as justification for
the grieving that ensues.
This doesn’t mean that grieving is wrong or bad, or that anyone
is less spiritual if they find themselves grieving.
Grieving has an important purpose. It presents an opportunity to
heal what caused it, thus allowing you to reclaim the kind of love you are
truly worthy of.
All it takes is a little bit of willingness to stop agreeing
with thoughts that seem to justify grieving, especially when you find yourself
in the midst of grieving.