Adventures of a Surrogate Unschool Mom

On August 21, 2019, my 10-year old nephew, Dillon came to stay with me and my family in Hawaii. Apparently, he was having trouble and getting into trouble at home with his family. What follows are my notes, which I made public on Facebook to my Unschooling for Parents group page.

August 21, 2019

The boy is afraid that without the behavior modification drug he’s going to misbehave and make aunty Hope angry with him.

I told him that was impossible. He doesn’t seem to believe me, but I think in time he will see for himself. 

August 26, 2019

My 10-year-old nephew explained to me that he’s “too lazy” and that’s why he didn’t do what he thinks he should have done.

I let him know that I’m not buying it because it’s impossible for him to be too much of anything and “lazy” implies that he’s capable of doing things.

He doesn’t totally get what I’m saying, but it does apparently calm his anxiety and that’s good enough for me.

September 2, 2019

Dillon 10-Day Update:

As many of you know, I’ve been playing in the role of surrogate mother to my 10-year-old nephew, who was on psychiatric drugs and considered to have serious behavioral issues.

When I visited his family in Henderson, Nevada he was a bit nervous to come with me all the way to Hawaii, but after a few days, he seemed incredibly excited. In the airport, Dillon expressed fear of not being on the drugs because he thought I would become angry at his behavior. I assured him that that was impossible.

For about the first week, Dillon seemed to be working very hard to incite anger in me, in every member of my family, and in anyone who wasn’t giving him their full attention. It was obvious to me that this way of being was just a habit that had become his way of calling for love.

On the airplane, Dillon would burst out in laughter, pain or otherwise make loud sounds that would startle me and the other passengers. At one point I found myself covering his mouth and when I removed my hand, he was smiling at me. I smiled back and let him know that people are trying to get some rest. He was doing his best, but still, the outbursts would come, and I was given the opportunity to exercise patience.

At home, the loud outbursts and other seemingly odd and disrespectful behavior continued while many “I’m sorry’s” came from Dillon without any immediate change in behavior.

I did not enroll Dillon in school because he has no desire for it. Dillon has been with me most of the time, even when I’m working because that’s where he wants to be.

After letting him know several times that I need quiet while I work, Dillon was still making loud outbursts, even though he has a Kindle Fire with plenty of movies, games and other things that he enjoys very much and that could very easily keep him occupied.

I watched as attack thoughts about him occurred to me, but I kept refusing to hold onto them. Sometimes those thoughts stuck with me, but not for very long as I could see the suffering they were making for me. I watched myself and members of my family became unnerved with Dillon and I kept refusing to make anyone at fault.

My 11-year-old son, Braun expressed that he wants Dillon to go back home because he is “so annoying”, so I let my son know that if he still feels that way in a month, I’ll send Dillon back home. Dillon heard this and expressed fear that if he was sent back home, he would be sent to juvenile hall. I told Dillon that I wasn’t concerned with that and if/when he’s sent home before June, it will not be because of his behavior but because he and Braun did not integrate.

I also let Dillon know that if he pays attention he can learn how to integrate anywhere and with anyone he wants. I also related to him that the loud outbursts were not working for me while I was working and that he was going to have to stay in his room if he could not keep quiet around me for the 3 hours or so that I needed to focus on other things. I said that he could try again each day to keep quiet and then go to his room if needed.

A few days later, Dillon calmed down and he’s been able to keep quiet while I’m working, keeping himself occupied with his Kindle Fire. He’s also demonstrating more maturity and respect for himself and everyone else.

Meanwhile, I’ve been taking Dillon out of the house to engage in community activities almost daily. At first, his habit was to complain a lot. Instead of being in awe of the beauty all around him, for the first few days, Dillon kept finding something wrong and jumping between elated, fidgety and pained.

He also had a habit of yelling out as if he just became seriously injured.
We arrived in Hawaii on a Wednesday night, and the following Sunday was his first Puna style Sunday Funday. This includes ecstatic dance, then a clothing-optional beach with intense waves that break right on the shore, then The Lawn, where many people gather to play music, eat, and engage in activities such as tightrope, frisbee, soccer, gymnastics, etc.

Dillon was afraid to dance because he said that people would make fun of him for being a bad dancer and afraid of getting naked because people would make fun of his small penis. I let him know it was safe to dance, be naked and to be himself, that it was not likely that anyone would make fun of him, and if they did, it doesn’t matter. I also let him know that dancing and getting naked were both optional.

Before we embarked on the clothing optional beach Dillon told me that naked people were disgusting. I let him know that he was talking about me because I was going to be naked in a few minutes. He changed his mind immediately and while he has kept his suit on, he doesn’t seem to mind the nudity at all.

He was much more interested in the waves breaking right onshore. He got immense enjoyment from experiencing the wildness of the ocean while staying grounded onshore.

Dillon took very well to all of the activities at The Lawn and even danced a bit in the drum circle. He’s had no problem integrating with people in the Sunday Funday environment.

Dillon has also been swimming at the community pool, played basketball with other kids at the community center and had lessons in aerial silks. This week he’s going to receive lessons in balancing and juggling skills at a circus community center.

His second Sunday Funday was even more fun for Dillon. He joined me for a few minutes of ecstatic dance, played in the pool after the dance, learned how to use a bullwhip at The Lawn, improved his tightrope skills, deepened his connections with people and made some new connections.

At home, Dillon told me that he wants to be a YouTube star, so I informed his father that Dillon could use a computer. When his father came up with stories of scarcity, my husband and I did a little research and purchased a suitable computer for him on Amazon.

Dillon was very grateful and relieved to have his creativity supported, and that night he entertained us with dances, jokes and his fun personality.
Last night, Dillon said he was sorry for something and I told him that he never has to be sorry because he’s always learning. I asked him if he would apologize to his teacher for getting a math problem wrong, and he laughed and said: “Why would I do that?”. I said that life is the same way. I told him that he can just appreciate what he is learning as he watches himself be changed.

Dillon then informed me that he can’t change because of the past. I asked, “What about the past?”. He said that because of how he’s been in the past, he’s going to keep being the same way.

So I asked Dillon if he’s noticed any difference in his behavior. He told me that he feels much calmer and more mature. I communicated that I see it too. I asked him why he thinks that is, and he told me that it’s because he feels happy.

He related a story to me of how he found himself going all the way upstairs to his room to put something away that he would have normally left on the couch. He said with emphasis that he would have NEVER done that at home in Henderson.

I told him that no matter what other people think about how well he’s learning, he can choose to just be happy that he is learning and the past won’t matter. That as long as he’s happy, he’s going to learn easier and faster.

I also related to him that his family in Henderson has been seeing him the way he sees himself, and because he was holding a poor image of himself, he kept drawing the same reflection from his family. I told him that he may have learned to see himself that way from his family’s reactions, but that he didn’t have to keep teaching their reactions to himself.

I asked him if he can imagine being loved, respected, supported and appreciated at home and he said “Yes!”. I told him that it was all within him and that he can totally learn how to express himself in a way that changes the people around him.

Needless to say, I’m super excited to continue this adventure in love and consciousness. I’m also excited about having a conversation with Dillon’s parents about how they can support this highly creative and intelligent child.

September 6, 2019

More Adventures as a Surrogate Mother:

A few days ago things got a little rough for me, in a playful way of course. Dillon seemed to be acting antagonistic and I seemed to be feeling annoyed.


Understanding for myself that this is all occurring in my mind, and that antagonism is a call for love from within myself, I take responsibility for all that I perceive. I go through emotional turbulence gladly and the breakthroughs come quickly.

That night Dillon related to me that his mom (stepmom) told him that if he’s sent back home early, she will send him to juvenile hall.

I told him that sometimes adults say things out of fear and they don’t really mean those things. He replied, “Like when my dad says he’s going to fuck me in the face or rip off my head and shit down my neck, but he never really does those things?”

I chuckled and said “Yes. just like that.” I let Dillon know that people who are hurting say and do hurtful things but that he can learn how to be protected from harm.

He said “But my reputation is so bad that when I go back home I’m just going to be punished some more. I asked him if he’s aware that reputations can change? He instantly perked up and said “Really?!”.

I said “Yes! That’s one of the things you are here to learn, is how to change your mind, which will change your reputation. Your parents are learning too. They want to have a happy, healthy relationship with you.”

I related to Dillon that because he was afraid of being sent home early and going to juvenile hall, it was causing him to act antagonistically because the mind has a way of seeking the very thing we are afraid of.

I shared with Dillon about how to undo the habit of being an antagonist by passively watching what’s motivating his actions and what he hopes to get out of relating with people in that way.

We talked for a little while as Dillon opened up and imagined a whole new way of being. When we started this conversation, Dillon was fidgety. He was wringing his hands, scratching himself and complaining of being itchy, having a headache and having a tummy ache.

He also seemed to be having trouble focusing his eyes on me. I told him that all of those pains were just habits set up to keep him from focusing on what we’re talking about. He said, “But I really want to talk about this.”

So I held his hands gently but firmly and asked him to look at me. When his eyes moved, I reminded him to stay focused on me.

While we were talking Dillon completely calmed down. I let go of his hands and I asked him if he noticed how calm he was. He said “Yes”. I asked him if he knew why he was so calm and he said it was because I was talking in a calm voice, that he liked what I was saying and that he was glad I wasn’t mad at him.

I could see that over the course of that day Dillon had projected that I was mad at him and that I was going to send him home for his bad behavior. Because he believed he had already messed up, he was made to act out even more and to manifest physical symptoms, not to mention getting smacked a few times by my son who is around the same age.

He also told me he was afraid that he was going to forget what we talked about because he always forgets things. I let him know that if he forgets I will remind him again and again, that we both want the same thing for him and that he can’t get it wrong.

As we were communicating he saw how he was only making up a story about me sending him home for bad behavior. That thought did cross my mind throughout the day but I didn’t pay any mind to it because I immediately saw that it was meaningless just like the perceived antagonism and my perceived emotional reactions to the antagonism.

The next day (yesterday), there was markedly less antagonism and other attention-seeking behavior and more helpfulness and self-sufficiency.

I’m having fun watching how my projected feelings and thoughts fluctuate with these seemingly different perceptions and it’s rewarding to encourage and inspire this chid’s return to peaceful awareness again and again

September 10, 2019

Update on Dillon’s Integration…

Many of you may recall that my 11-year-old son Braun wanted to send Dillon (his 10-year-old cousin) back to the mainland because he was “annoying”. I told Braun that if he still felt that way in a month, Dillon would return home at that time.

Well, the other night, the three of us were playing Uno when Dillon said to Braun, “It seems like you like me now because you let me into your room”.
Braun started singing “🎵Yes! Because you’re actually a nice person🎵“, and then Dillon sang back “🎵Then that means I can stay longer than a month🎵“, and Braun sang back to him “🎵Congratulations!🎵“. Then Braun did an expressive dance before we continued on with our game.
Dillon still seems to be attracted to making conflict, which was being expressed during our Uno game that night. But Braun seems to be able to roll with it now that he sees how much Dillon has already calmed down and how much fun we can all have together.

During the game, Dillon tried to lie and cheat and he accused me and Braun of trying to look at his cards. Braun and I both expressed that we weren’t interested in playing like that and even if his cards were exposed, we were going to try not to look at them because that makes the game less interesting.

Dillon seemed to get the message that we like playing in a friendly way and that he could let his guard down and just relax and have fun.
We were able to play three games with Dillon winning none of them, and by the end, he seemed perfectly content with the outcome.
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I’ve noticed that Dillon tends to feel unsafe and insecure, and react as if his very survival depends on being seen and heard. That kind of expression has been a major turn-off for Braun, who generally feels safe and secure and who is generally attracted to people who feel the same.

As Dillon has learned what it takes to be friends with Braun, he’s been allowing himself to just play with Braun instead of trying to get a big reaction out of him. Still, when Dillon gets preoccupied with getting Braun’s attention, Braun lets him know that he doesn’t like it.

For instance, Dillon was accustomed to using sexually explicit words to get a reaction out of people, so he would often burst out with words like “dick, balls and booty hoe”. Being with Braun has been putting that in check because Braun finds it dumb and unfunny. In fact, when Dillon would make a joke that used sexually explicit language as the punchline, it would tend to get Dillon an “unfunny joke” slap from Braun.

****Last night, Dillon got the computer we ordered for him and I helped him set it up. It took a few tries because he would get very antsy and impatient, and I’d find myself stopping. He would ask me to help him again and I would let him know that I would be willing to help as long as he was chillin’. He eventually got the message and discovered how to find relaxation while engaged in the project with me.

At this point, because Braun is getting more comfortable with having Dillon in the house, it appears that Dillon is going to be able to stay with us for the entire 9 months we had planned. Dillon expresses that he loves his parents and siblings very much and he misses being with them. He seems very excited about returning home in the spring with a new perspective and a clean slate.

Much appreciation to the parents for giving Dillon this opportunity to discover another way of being and for their willingness to learn another way of being with him.

September 14, 2019

Protecting Innocence

Dillon came to me after being conditioned with extremely guilty self-talk, constantly saying he’s sorry, how bad he is and what an idiot he is. He’s also expressed the need to self punish because I wasn’t punishing him.

When he’s acting out of guilty self-talk it looks like he’s being a “bad boy”. I see him look at me for the reaction he expects, and it’s my joy to break his expectation, so I pray for the guidance and grace to see past guilty appearances in order to be a true reflection.

A few nights ago, Dillon asked me to tuck him into bed even though he wasn’t going to sleep yet. (He’s been staying up watching YouTube until he passes out.)🙂

I asked him what it meant to “tuck him in” and he said that I give him a hug, a kiss and say a prayer with him.

The first night he thanked God for the great day and for Aunty Hope being so nice to him. Then he asked me to say a prayer and so I thanked God for Dillon and asked God to show Dillon that he deserves all the kindness.

Last night we had the same routine. This time Dillon thanked God again and then asked God to forgive him for all of the sins he committed that day.
Then he asked me to say a prayer and I prayed for Dillon to see that he’s never committed any sin and that he’s completely innocent.

After the prayer, Dillon told me that someone said that it was good to pray for forgiveness every day, and I let him know that’s very common because most people believe that they have sinned and they pray for forgiveness because they are afraid of God’s punishment.

He then said, “But if I don’t ask God for forgiveness, then he won’t forgive me and I will be punished!” I then related to Dillon that God doesn’t know about the things he thinks he does and that it’s up to him to forgive himself for believing that he’s capable of doing anything that would make God angry.

I also let him in on the secret that the more he thinks he’s sinned and needs forgiveness, the more sinful he’s going to become in his own imagination.
Dillon asked if not believing in sin would stop him from doing bad things. I related to him that he’s already innocent, that it’s impossible for him to do bad things and whenever he thinks he has done a bad thing, he’s only making it up.

He seemed very excited about that, although he starts to sweat and he gets fidgety when he hears it. That’s how I know he’s heard enough for the moment.

Every day with Dillon is a blessing that I cherish. I appreciate every opportunity to protect our shared innocence in the midst of a world that aims to destroy it.

September 17, 2019

The other night Dillon prayed and thanked God for showing him that he doesn’t have any sins to forgive and that he can’t sin.

He seemed to get that so easily and since then he seems to have shifted into another dimension, with more ease and comfort.

The day before he told me that his mom always tells him how bad he is. I told him that he may not hear it from her when he returns home, and even if he does hear it. He doesn’t have to believe it! 💜💛

September 21, 2019

Dillon Update – One Month:

Dillon tells me he feels like he’s on vacation because he doesn’t have to go to school and he can watch YouTube and play video games all day.

What I see is that he’s also eager to help out, he’s inquisitive and very social. Also, from my experience with my own kids, he’s accelerating beyond his school-attending peers intellectually.

Dillon seems like a very different person from when he first arrived in Hawaii. He’s reflecting more of the maturity, calmness, and respect that the parents were trying to accomplish through conventional discipline, punishment, therapies, and psychotic drugs.

In fact, the evidence was clear that all conventional means had utterly failed. That’s why Dillon was sent to me in the first place.

Dillon came from a household where the prevailing thought was that bad behavior deserves punishment, and “too much” YouTube or video games qualified as “bad behavior”. The parents seemed totally stressed out and at their wit’s end with Dillon.

I’m encouraging the parents to allow themselves to trust Dillon’s choices because their trust in him engenders peace, fosters maturity, activates creativity and accelerates learning.

But the parents have some inner work to do before they can allow themselves to trust their child’s choices. While a parent is subscribed to the idea that children are meant to be controlled, allowing them to make their own choices is seen as neglectful, and being a neglectful parent is not an easy perception to have. Nor does it serve the child.

What’s being encouraged here is a complete change of heart and mind. For that to occur, the parent must be willing to recognize that everything they learned about their role as parent is backward and upside down.
Children have come to teach us, not the other way around. To let them lead the way takes willingness to go through emotional pain that serves as our defense mechanism for holding ourselves in a position of authority and in resistance to change.

Whether Dillon’s parents are willing to surrender their misbelief and face their emotional pain remains to be seen. In any case, Dillon came to answer their call for more peace and freedom and he will continue to do his “job” because he loves them.

September 25, 2019

When I had the perception of my nephew lying, I told him that people only lie when they are afraid. So I asked him what he was afraid of.

He told me he was afraid of getting in trouble. I let him know he was not going to get in trouble no matter what.

Now he just tells me what’s up. I think he likes being unafraid of getting in trouble.

October 13, 2019

More Adventures as an Unschooling Surrogate Mom

DILLON UPDATE – 1.75 MONTHS:

Dillon is ready to return home. He isn’t perceiving his family as a threat anymore and he feels ready to reintegrate with their programs. Hooray!!

When he first came to us, Dillon was extremely fearful. His little body would become stiff and he would become breathless while rapidly repeating that he was sorry, because he was afraid that he was going to “get in trouble”.

It occurred to me that he expected his behavior to earn him punishment and that he actively sought punishment even though he thought (and acted as if) he didn’t want it.

Once Dillon realized that nothing he perceived himself doing ever got him any punishment, his behavior changed significantly and quickly.
In fact, my older son asked me why his family was having a problem with him, commenting that he didn’t seem to be much trouble.

By the end of the first week, Dillon became adamant that he never wanted to return home. But he recently changed his mind about that.
His decision to return home came after Dillon had two instances of hallucinating loud screaming in his mind and images of the world encroaching upon him.

On the surface, it appeared as if staying up most of the night watching YouTube caused the hallucinating, but the motivation for staying up at night was only fear. That’s why it seemed to have fearful effects.

During the hallucinating, Dillon asked me how to make it stop and I related to him how to go through the fear, while I layed my hand on him and reminded him that he was safe. He relaxed within a few minutes and fell asleep.

The second instance seemed to be less intense and also seemed to subside sooner than the first, but after that Dillon’s fear of hallucinating again was multiplied.

Dillon told me that he realized he needs to have structure and punishments imposed upon him because it keeps him safe and healthy.

Such is a very good example of how people tend to cling to known fear rather than face unknown fear which arises on the path to greater freedom. The same is in no way any problem, as one can only accept as much freedom as they are ready for.

Many times a gradual release of fear is more easeful for people, as is the case with Dillon.

After Dillon related to me that he was afraid to fall asleep alone in his room, I’ve been sleeping with him every night so that while he’s with us he can feel safe enough to go to sleep before he passes out from exhaustion.

I’ve also told Dillon that I’m happy to sleep with him every night until he goes home. That seemed to put his mind at ease and he seems happy to be sleeping at night, yet he still “can’t wait” to go back home.

For the past few nights, he’s been making a big scene, acting like he’s distressed from fear and really wants to go home. Last night I told him if that’s the case, I’m taking him to the airport right away. He changed his mind and calmed down immediately because he really doesn’t want to go home before his birthday party, next Friday. It’s fun to see how fear is immediately resolved when it’s seen that it’s not getting us what we want!! lol!

Aside from the craving for rules and punishments, Dillon seems to be missing his family very much. Since he’s been here, he’s been able to perceive the love they have for him.

In fact, Dillon seems to be perfectly clear that everything his parents have done is because they love him. Yay!!

I just love how people are drawn together and apart perfectly in order to facilitate healing for our shared mind.

I’m also glad to be able to perceive even more how none of us are doing it right or wrong. Our roles are more like processes in one mental system that’s constantly being drawn towards greater love.

Today is Dillon’s 11th Birthday. We are going to celebrate with Sunday Funday and with a party next Friday. Soon after that, he will be off to begin his new life with his family.
What a blessing!

October 17, 2019

A Hui Hou, Dillon!

Dillon returned home on Tuesday. I was suddenly guided to get him a flight after it was revealed to me that he was ready to go.

While Dillon had been saying that he didn’t want to return home before his birthday party on the 18th, I was guided that he really wanted to return home as soon as possible.

So I made arrangements for him to fly before Dillon woke up. I felt a bit apprehensive because I wasn’t sure how he was going to react to the news.
When I went into his room to get his suitcase, he was just waking up. He looked at me and I said: “I’m getting your suitcase because you’re flying home today!”.

His eyes widened and he smiled big, then he jumped out of bed and helped me pack his suitcase. We went to his favorite breakfast place and he was off on his next adventure.

Dillon only mentioned the birthday party once and it was just a quick “Too bad I’m going to miss my party, but I’m really glad to be going home.”

We are still going to have a party on Friday for Dillon’s birthday, and we will be shipping his gifts to him in Henderson, Nevada.

Money as a Healing Device

Making the effects of money real and then saying “I don’t need money” is like saying “I don’t need air” and trying to get by without breathing. It’s painful and scary!

Both statements are true because you are only dreaming that you are something that has needs.

However, in dreaming there is an apparent need for some medium of exchange, which is made into an object of poverty when you add resistance to it.

“I don’t need money…”

In fact, the statement “I don’t need money” becomes an affirmation of poverty because your mind interprets that as “I need money, which I don’t have”. 

So how do you use the perception of money to undo what causes illusions of poverty?

Watch how you feel when money-related thoughts occur to you. If you’re perceiving anything other than gratitude, it’s an opportunity for healing the cause of misperception. Hooray!!

To seize the opportunity, deny any truth to the thoughts being projected out of the non-gratitude feeling. (instead of denying that you need money).

Indeed, one form of denial is worthy of you, and the other is totally unworthy. One form demonstrates your infinite abundance and the other protects illusions of poverty.

The truth needs nothing and you are the truth. You are the only one who can accept the gifts of undoing what you thought you were.

Hope’s Social Media Digest, August 2019

Consciousness:

God knows nothing of consciousness, where God’s children go to sentence themselves to death.

God maintains our reality beyond our decision to take on consciousness, and constantly communicates the truth to our shared mind.

When we are willing to communicate only with God, we will escape consciousness and all of its effects.

It’s only a matter of time.

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Consciousness is the ego’s domain, but ego doesn’t make anything happen.

You are the maker of everything that arises in consciousness, including the ego.

Ego only offers guidance in the form of thought. When you decide with the ego you decide to make more illusions and to extend lifetimes within which to play them out.

Spirit, which you didn’t make, also offers guidance. When you decide with spirit, you decide to withdraw illusions, extend love and shorten the time it takes to reach liberation.

Worldly Seeking:

When you feel as if you are saying something, it’s out of a sense of lack, but when you are aware that you’re not really capable of saying (or typing) anything, the words come from a sense of wholeness and extend only love.

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Giving up the pleasures of this world is not really a sacrifice. It only appears to be a sacrifice because of forgetting what ecstasy is beyond this world, and unwillingness to recognize that all worldly pleasures actually lead to pain.

When worldly pleasures are no longer sought after, it’s not as if there are no pleasurable acts taking place. There is just non-attachment to those acts and no sense of yearning for them.

Everything gets used for going deeper into union with your spirit, which is the greatest joy.

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This world is for resolving the thought of separation, forgiving perceived trespasses and for recognizing perfect peace.

Use this world for another purpose and it will bring you suffering, followed by death, because you asked for illusions rather than the truth.

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Seeking abundance in the world is the way you sacrifice your inheritance in exchange for struggle and strife.

Judgment:

The mind’s attraction to judgment is what makes the illusion of predators and their victims.

The lion will lie down with the lamb and everyone will reflect only gentleness as soon we decide to look past our mistaken perceptions and accept reality as it is.

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If it seems as if you’re surprised at another person’s inadequacy, you’re not.

That’s self doubt in disguise, projecting as if you expected someone else to do better.

Ego:

Ego supports your attempts to “undo ego programming” as long as you are also committed to believing that you have an ego.

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Wanting different things is symbolic of your desire for union with your spirit, and identifying with wanting is what keeps that holy desire covered up.

The ego is dependent on your wanting for its survival because when you get the experience of spirit’s desire for you and your desire for spirit, it’s such an ecstatic courtship that you’ll never want for sex or anything else ever again.

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The fact that you are egoless is blasphemy to the ego, whose survival is totally dependent on your decision to identify with it.

Body Illusion:

Losing something isn’t sad unless you permitted your mind to develop a craving for it in the first place.

Even after the fact, you can undo the craving and its sad effect, if you’re willing to admit that you’re making it up.

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Intelligence assigned to the body is a fundamental error that results in illusions of physical pain and death.

Nothing that you seem to accomplish for the body is lasting and believing that you are accomplishing anything for the body makes it seem vulnerable to the environment, food, poverty and other worldly effects.

The body is neither vulnerable nor invulnerable and it cannot communicate. The body is a projection of mind and it’s given the meaning assigned to it by the mind.

If the mind is willing to use the body only for communicating love, the body will only be an expression of love, and not of disease nor of death.

To correct the fundamental error, offer a little bit of willingness to be given a different interpretation in the moment the body seems to have intelligence or autonomy.

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Sexual healing is an unattainable goal because sexuality itself is a projection of a sick mind.

Sexuality doesn’t need to be avoided, nor does it need to be healed because either way, it’s just an attempt to avoid the underlying problem.

True Identity:

You can’t love what is until you know what is.

Seeking to love your illusions of reality is pointless.

To recognize reality takes denying truth to everything that denies the presence of love.

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You are the beloved of eternity, the only one who can truly hold you.

Seeking to be held out as special makes you feel lonely, and that feeling will persist until you choose the one who loves all of you.

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There is a difference between taking your behavior as a lesson and taking it as a mistake.

What’s seen as your behavior is only the form of your curriculum, which can never be mistaken.

Whereby the only lesson is innocence, taking yourself as someone who is capable of mistaken behavior is not only a mistake, but it makes learning more difficult and appear to take longer in time.

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It doesn’t matter what you seem to be choosing.

I love you soooo much and I think you are doing awesome.

If you’re willing to receive that, you will feel better, guaranteed.

Go ahead, you deserve it.

Responsibility:

If you perceive something, you are projecting it.

It’s kinda like the saying goes, when someone claims they smell a fart in a group of people: “The one who smelled it, dealt it.” 😆

Makes it all so simple, loving and fun!

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If you are not wholly joyful, nothing is wrong with you and nothing is wrong with the world.

You are the truth and the world is an expression of a self denying concept, which cannot really affect you.

All that’s wrong is that your thinking has been led astray.

Simply admitting that you have been mistaken opens you to the kind of guidance that leads back to who you are.

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You can’t actually do anything. All doing is taking care of itself. 🎉

Any time spent as a doer or projecting doership onto others is time spent keeping the truth hidden from your sight. 💐

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Your mood is determined by the thoughts you choose to make meaningful, not by anyone’s behavior.

Relating:

How to heal with a person who insists on making you wrong:
Instead of allowing yourself to become convinced that they are wrong, admit that you are misperceiving so that you can get the message behind the show of insanity.
 
While their words may be guided by the ego, the speaker is always right in that the ego is not real and it’s impossible for anyone’s mind to be insane. Those who appear to be making you wrong are dreaming along with you of a world where separate bodies come to suffer and die.
 
When you perceive a person making you wrong, let it be a sign that they have a gift of awareness for you. That gift is in the feeling reaction that you get out of perceiving them.
 
It’s an opportunity to demonstrate to your own mind that the dream is not reality. To seize that opportunity takes willingness to have your perception corrected, which cannot occur while you insist that you already seeing them clearly.
 
So, the key is in denying the truth of what you are perceiving so that you can accept what’s true about them, which allows your mind to accept what’s true about you.
 
Only by accepting them as wholly sane, loving, innocent and peaceful in your mind, can you likewise accept yourself. Because you are one with them, whatever you make of them is what you make of yourself.
 
But when you accept the spirit’s interpretation of them, you get healed of misperception along with them. Even if you perceive them continuing to hold the image of wrongness for you, rest assured that healing has happened.
 
It’s not up to you how and when their healing is made manifest. The point is not to fix another person, but to get a reinterpretation of who they are so that you can recognize yourself as you are. That’s their gift to you.
 
Once you have accepted the reinterpretation, your work is done. So let the sense of relief that’s come over your mind be the symbol of healing.
 
In time, they will see you clearly as well, but ‘when’ is not up to you because time is under the control of Spirit, who uses time to teach each one of their innocence according to how much truth they can accept without fear.
 
Rest assured that by releasing them from your condemnation, you have brightened the light within them and they are very grateful. This is true even if they seem to hate you.
 
Your appreciation for them returns to you for all that you are. Keep beaming the light of truth. You are so loved!
 

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None of them can be trusted individually.

All of them can be trusted indivisibly.

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To place trust in individuals is to teach yourself that you can be hurt by them..a sinister teaching.

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Whatever you are willing to perceive in another you are secretly willing to strengthen within yourself.

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Con artists show up when you’ve been pursuing thoughts of desperation.

The best way to deal with a perceived con artist is laughter because lightheartedness allows you to find out what you’ve been desperate about, and to teach yourself that thoughts of desperation never lead to anything that you want.

On the other hand, if you pursue the idea that you’ve been victimized, the attraction to thoughts of desperation remains unhealed, which manifests more illusions of con artists. Is that what you really want?

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If you want to be happy and have harmonious relationships, don’t try to convince anyone that they are something that you would find offensive.

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The entering and exiting of people in your life is not really your choice or theirs.

The stories you make about why they come and go are pure fantasy.

Let each encounter be used only for healing and all of your relating with be wholly satisfying.

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The only relationship you can ever have is with your source.
When you realize this, all of your worldly relating will be wholly satisfying.

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Everything and everyone is neutral. 🌹

You decide whether they attest to guilt or innocence, and that decision comes from what you were willing to see within yourself first.

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People cannot project onto you. They can only reflect your hidden self-belief.

It’s not their expression, but your reaction to their expression that reveals what you’ve been trying to keep hidden from your sight.

Every moment you spend denying that they are capable of projecting onto you is a moment devoted to clarity and healing. It engenders self-compassion which casts out fear of looking upon what’s causing your reaction.

The instant the cause of reacting is revealed, sanity is restored, which manifests as feeling a deeper sense of love and relaxation than you’ve ever known before.

So bless your companion because you cannot escape your insanity without them.

Guilt:

Guilty feeling is the effect of choosing against yourself.

It’s like a compass, letting you know that by your choice to make illusions true, you have distanced yourself from what’s really true.

Parenting:

The Unwitting Sexualization of Children
Many parents unwittingly sexualize their children because they are afraid of the child having sex too young or being sexually abused, and they don’t know how to take care of their fear. This is not about trying to avoid fearful effects, it’s about healing what causes fearful effects to manifest in the first place.
 
The root cause of fearful effects is fear, and the only way to eliminate fearful effects is to see that their cause has no basis in reality.
 
Specifically, our mind is programmed with an “ego”, which guides us to project fearful feelings and then try to avoid them. When the parent dwells in fear over their child being exposed to sex, ego guides the parent to project images that effectively sexualize the child in the parent’s mind, to relate with the world as if the image they hold of the child is really true, and to make agendas to keep the child safe.
 
Such agendas cause conflict between parent and child at a minimum while increasing the likelihood that the parent’s fears will be played out. Once the child has been sexualized in the parent’s mind, notwithstanding all of the avoidance strategies, the parent’s mind has been programmed to see that the image they believe in is made manifest. That image and trajectory deny the child’s inherent innocence and invulnerability, which causes the child to feel guilty and react fearfully.
 
To avoid sexualizing your child or to undo what you’ve already made of them, take care of your fearful feelings about your child being exposed to sex. If the child asks about sex, give them honest answers, but don’t make a big deal of it, or try to control them about it.
 
If you find out that your child has been masturbating, watching porn or engaging in some sexual behavior, and that triggers upset feelings in you, take care of your feelings instead of justifying them, especially in front of your child. In this way, the child will not be afraid to confide in you if anything feels uncomfortable or scary to them.
 
That kind of confidence and freedom makes children far less susceptible to peer pressure, to playing victim to sexual predators, or to playing the role of sexual predator. It also protects them from developing a guilt complex about feeling sexual or about having sexual encounters.
 
If you find out that your child has been playing the role of sexual predator, take care of your feelings so that you can communicate with them. In this way, you can help them uncover and heal the guilty thought process that’s responsible for making them act out as a predator.
 
If you find out that your child has been playing the role of sexual victim, again, take care of your feelings so that you can communicate with them. In this way, you can help them uncover and heal the guilty thought process that’s responsible for making them into a victim.
 
I understand that this is a sensitive subject for people, and that’s because pursuant to the ego’s guidance, our mind is conditioned to keep fearful programs protected so that they can continue to justify feeling fearful. That’s how ego prevents us from finding out that there is really no basis for the fearful feeling and no need for ego at all.
 
As feeling fearful gets healed instead of getting projected, it’s our children who are getting the benefit of our mind’s protection instead of the ego’s fearful program. In addition, love gets extended and harmony prevails between parent and child.
 
How do you take care of your feelings? Notice when an uncomfortable or painful feeling arises in your body and just offer a little bit of willingness to admit that the feeling is a projection of your own confusion. In this way, your mind learns how to accept healing for your perception instead of using your perception to keep the cause of feeling fearful hidden from your sight.
 
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Being suspicious of yourself makes you suspicious of your kid’s motives and competency.

If you trust in your mis-interpretation of your child, you hold them to the same limitations you’ve made for yourself.

But if you’re just a little bit willing to see that you are self projecting, your perception of yourself and them will get healed.

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No child deserves to feel remorse, no matter what they seem to have done.

Are you willing to protect their innocence, and yours?

Or would you rather keep remorse and make more “evidence” that remorse is justified.

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The number one teaching that came through on my book signing today was for the parent to be assured that they cannot get it wrong.
 
Specifically, when a parent feels guilty, including remorseful or regretful, their energy becomes self-punishing, which in turn causes the parent to act out punishing scenarios with their children.
 
Even if the parent seems to exert control over their own actions, if guilt cooks beneath the surface, consciousness is bound to make self-punishing manifestations.
 
But any parent or person who is even a little bit willing to recognize that they cannot get it wrong, will learn how to heal the mistaken self-belief faster, and with a lot less effort.
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You asked for escape from depression, greed and death, and the child has come to show the way.

Use them to instill your trust in the illusions of this world, and you will “protect” yourself from recognizing their gentle guidance.

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When the parent cannot see how to allow freedom for themselves, they cannot help but put restrictions on their kids.

I’m not here to tell parents to give their kids more freedom. I’m here to show parents how to free themselves from their own perceived limitations.

I’ve recently taken on a child whose parents do not feel free enough to extend freedom to their child. However, the parents did feel free enough to send their child to me so that I can extend freedom to him. For that, I’m very grateful.

The child is conditioned in such a way that he unwittingly uses his energy to get someone to feel annoyed with him so that they will put restrictions on him.

He doesn’t like it, but that’s how he’s learned to fit in with the world he perceives to be around him.

I’m going to share how I communicate with the child and how I use my energy to help him undo that conditioning so that he can learn to relate with people from a sense of freedom and dominion.

If you feel so inspired, please join me online on Tuesday at 3pm Hawaii Time. I’ll post the Facebook invitation in the comments.

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My 10-year-old nephew explained to me that he’s “too lazy” and that’s why he didn’t do what he thinks he should have done.

I let him know that I’m not buying it because it’s impossible for him to be too much of anything and “lazy” implies that he’s capable of doing things.

He doesn’t totally get what I’m saying, but it does apparently calm his anxiety and that’s good enough for me.

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Gentleness

As you allow more gentleness for yourself, you will lose the attraction toward forcing or manipulating your kids to attend school, church, social functions, or sports.

 

This will almost always trigger the ego to make you out to be insane, which is likely to be demonstrated through the fearful reflections of other people.

 

The whole point of their fearful reflections is to make you feel threatened so that you will react out of fear and thereby demonstrate that gentleness is dangerous.

 

But you can also decide to use fearful reflection to demonstrate that gentleness is safe.

 

To do so, be willing to go through the sense of feeling threatened without defending yourself, or otherwise making fearful thoughts out to be true.

 

In this way, the sense of threat will give way to the sense of ultimate safety and your words and actions will emanate from that gentle state of mind.

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Supporting a child’s natural creativity is far more relaxing and rewarding than forcing a curriculum on them.

The Unwitting Sexualization of Children

unwitting sexualization children

Many parents unwittingly sexualize their children because they are afraid of the child having sex too young or being sexually abused, and they don’t know how to take care of their fear. This is not about trying to avoid fearful effects, it’s about healing what causes fearful effects to manifest in the first place.

The root cause of fearful effects is fear, and the only way to eliminate fearful effects is to see that their cause has no basis in reality.

Specifically, our mind is programmed with an “ego”, which guides us to project fearful feelings and then try to avoid them. When the parent dwells in fear over their child being exposed to sex, ego guides the parent to project images that effectively sexualize the child in the parent’s mind, to relate with the world as if the image they hold of the child is really true, and to make agendas to keep the child safe.

Such agendas cause conflict between parent and child at a minimum while increasing the likelihood that the parent’s fears will be played out. Once the child has been sexualized in the parent’s mind, notwithstanding all of the avoidance strategies, the parent’s mind has been programmed to see that the image they believe in is made manifest. That image and trajectory deny the child’s inherent innocence and invulnerability, which causes the child to feel guilty and react fearfully.

To avoid sexualizing your child or to undo what you’ve already made of them…take care of your fearful feelings about your child being exposed to sex.

If the child asks about sex, give them honest answers, but don’t make a big deal of it, or try to control them about it.

If you find out that your child has been masturbating, watching porn or engaging in some sexual behavior, and that triggers upset feelings in you, take care of your feelings instead of justifying them, especially in front of your child. In this way, the child will not be afraid to confide in you if anything feels uncomfortable or scary to them.

That kind of confidence and freedom makes children far less susceptible to peer pressure, to playing victim to sexual predators, or to playing the role of sexual predator. It also protects them from developing a guilt complex about feeling sexual or about having sexual encounters.

If you find out that your child has been playing the role of sexual predator, take care of your feelings so that you can communicate with them. In this way, you can help them uncover and heal the guilty thought process that’s responsible for making them act out as a predator.

If you find out that your child has been playing the role of sexual victim, again, take care of your feelings so that you can communicate with them. In this way, you can help them uncover and heal the guilty thought process that’s responsible for making them into a victim.

I understand that this is a sensitive subject for people, and that’s because pursuant to the ego’s guidance, our mind is conditioned to keep fearful programs protected so that they can continue to justify feeling fearful. That’s how ego prevents us from finding out that there is really no basis for the fearful feeling and no need for ego at all.

As feeling fearful gets healed instead of getting projected, it’s our children who are getting the benefit of our mind’s protection instead of the ego’s fearful program. In addition, love gets extended and harmony prevails between parent and child.

How do you take care of your feelings? Notice when an uncomfortable or painful feeling arises in your body and just offer a little bit of willingness to admit that the feeling is a projection of your own confusion. In this way, your mind learns how to accept healing for your perception instead of using your perception to keep the cause of feeling fearful hidden from your sight.

Hope’s Social Media Digest July 14 through July 30th

Consciousness:

The above diagram goes with this video: Consciousness and the Manifestation Trap

Manifesting:

Getting what you want is soooo overrated since you cannot possibly know what you really want.

Knowing that you really want whatever you get, and knowing how to use it for healing the cause of your dis-ease….That’s something to sing about.

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If it’s more money that you want, it’s really poverty that you are seeking. You cannot want more money without projecting a feeling as if something is lacking.

Trying to change your feeling in order to get more money will NEVER work. That striving still comes from a place of lack. You cannot fool your mind like that. Any appearance of abundance attained this way will surely become its opposite.

Once you get disillusioned by false abundance enough times, you will give up the quest for worldly treasures to accept the treasure that is not subject to conditions of any kind.

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You cannot perceive yourself or anyone else as anxious, confused, angry, panicked, suspicious or sick unless you are making yourself guilty.

Do not ask for relief from the results of guilt unless you want to make more results. Instead ask what’s causing you to make yourself guilty.

When you find out, you will naturally change your mind and the results will follow.

Judgment:

Judgment is impossible for any of us. If you perceive judgment, whether in yourself or in others, it’s only your perception that needs correcting.

Pointing out perceived judgments as if they are in need of correcting makes judgment into a reality for you, which is a setup for perceiving more judgments.

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You are not capable of judgment because you are not the ego.

If I perceived judgment in you and tried to correct it, that’s only because I saw it in myself first, and forgot to laugh. That was my mistake.

If you are looking to engage as if you are capable of judgment, you have my blessing, but not my participation.

 

Ego:

No one has an ego. In fact, ego doesn’t really exist. Ego is a fearful thought program that we set up in the mind to bait us into conflict.

Why did we set up the ego? To keep us distracted so that we don’t find out that the world we are perceiving is only held together by guilt and fear of punishment.

There is no need to provoke the ego or try to change its way of thinking. Ego is not capable of change.

In time, ego will be made obsolete, not through force or fighting, but through gentle recognition that we can allow conflict to pass us by and choose peace instead.

 

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Ego is not in the manifestation. The manifestation is innocent.

Ego is the sinister guide in your mind that leads you to make parts of the manifestation out to lack innocence.

You can have a peaceful and true interpretation instead.

You can choose to overlook the ego’s guidance and be led by the one who can vouch for your innocence and who knows the way back to sanity.

Illusions:

The Divine only knows itself. It doesn’t know your perceived limitations or visions of debauchery.

You are Divine. When you make your perceptions true, you temporarily lose touch with yourself.

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You are nowhere to be found in this world. You are completely apart from it.

This world is projected from your mind and nothing that happens here affects you.

It’s you who affect this world by the way you choose to regard yourself in relation to it.

You can choose to welcome all of your apparent fear, anxiety, anger and sadness as opportunities to bring your light to the darkness; or you can use the darkness to blot out your light.

If you choose to blot our your light, no worries! Well, it will actually multiply your worries, but that’s okay.

That mental condition can’t last forever because the light is within you, always informing you who you are and what this world is really for.

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This world is superimposed between our awareness and our mind’s true reality.

Undoing the projected story of self that causes the worldly veil is our only real responsibility.

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Being is having it all.

Because you took a mistaken thought about yourself seriously, you wanted to make yourself unaware of being, and so you made yourself believe that getting means having more and giving means having less.

But because of who you are, giving actually increases what you have and getting is totally meaningless.

Are you interested in becoming aware of being again? Then notice what makes you aware of being an object, and deny truth to that.

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The most ungrounding thought is the one about the illusory world being real.

It makes you project images of unfairness, destruction, anger and pain and then resist against those things as if they didn’t just come from you.

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The illusory world is held together by resistance, which leads people to seek and find something to resist.

Let them have their resistance. It’s not going to involve you unless you are also seeking for something to resist.

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You are NOT of the Earth. You are NOT made of matter, but thinking you are makes it so, and that puts you at odds with other material objects.

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What’s called life on Earth is based on fear of death. The whole experience is predicated on a desire for death to escape the hidden guilt of having separated from reality.

Everyone has this mental disease, although some are better at covering it up than others. The trouble is that no one really dies, and an apparent death doesn’t release anyone from the pain of guilt.

The solution for our common dis-ease is in healing the hidden self-belief, which can only occur through our relationships, by demonstrating innocence where projecting guilt seems to be the only option.

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Every illusion really does benefit you because you are aware of it, and either you know how to listen to guidance on how to use it for healing the insanity in your mind, or you are learning how to do that.

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A sick mind causes people to drink, drug, or otherwise consume excessively so that guilt can be demonstrated by making the body and mind out to be sick from the effects of excessive consumption.

But the real cause of both illusions of excessive consumption and illusions of physical symptoms is only the innocent mind making itself sick by taking guilty thoughts as if they are true.

Compassion is the key to healing the illusion of overconsumption (whether for yourself or for others in your perception), not making the illusion of excessive consumption true and focusing on that as if it’s not an effect of an underlying problem in your own mind.

Because the only problem is guilty self-belief, healing what makes illusions of problems occurs through willingness to protect the innocent body and mind from being attacked mentally by your guilty self projections.

Self Doubt:

It’s common to doubt yourself when you find yourself not being able to follow the spiritual teachings you’ve been sharing with others.

But that self-doubt is not really justified because what you perceive of yourself is just some errant thought process coming to the surface.

What you seem to have taught in the past isn’t really in the past. It’s being offered to you right now.

You will be able to follow that spiritual guidance when you’re willing to recognize that you’re not really the one faltering.

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Worry comes from believing you are unworthy of peace.

It’s got nothing to do with what seems to be happening. Nothing happens.

Responsibility:

Unwillingness to admit responsibility for all that you perceive makes you into a victim of your own perceptions, which are not just occurring to you randomly.

Your perceptions are orchestrated mentally by you to demonstrate the effects of believing that you are separate from love.

Perceiving fearful people and situations is not meant as a punishment. It’s meant as an opportunity to dismantle the defenses to love that you have constructed out of guilt and fear of punishment.

How do you dismantle your defensiveness to being who you are? Admit responsibility for all that you perceive, instead of trusting in worldly evidence that “proves” things happen to you randomly, without your authority.

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If it’s capable of being threatened, it was never really sacred.

It was only propped up as something sacred for the purpose of seducing the innocent into worshipping at the alter of fear.

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The whole world becomes sacred when it’s used for restoring the mind’s true reality.

The whole world becomes sacrilege when any part is separated out and deemed sacred or sacrilege on its own, because that holds you out as something that can be threatened while giving power to things that seem to threaten you.

The world is innocent and neutral. You decide whether it’s used for self-exaltation or self desecration.

Relating:

No one is capable of doing anything in your perception without your authority. Find out what motivates you to make them out as if they are acting against you, and be free.

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When someone seems to be reacting to you in fear, it’s not time to teach them a spiritual concept. It’s time to take care of that fearful feeling that’s arising in you and projecting outward as if something is lacking.

That’s how we heal together. It’s not by getting people to validate our concepts. In fact, all concepts are meaningless in light of what’s true, and so the truth cannot be shared conceptually.

Truth is only shared by extension from the mind that’s willing to abandon concepts in favor of communion.

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All you need is love, but not the kind of love that turns to fear when your seeming needs to go unmet.

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When you seem to be doing battle, are you grateful to the ones you seem to be battling against for innocently playing their roles, thus making it possible for you to play yours?

Or are you making yourself out to be righteous and them out to be acting without your authority?

One way of doing battle cures the insanity and the other multiplies it.

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If people seem to accuse you of being out of integrity, that’s not without your authority. It’s like you asked them and they agreed to set you up like that so you could bring that dark idea about yourself to the light of your awareness.


Don’t analyze yourself to see if you agree with the accusation unless you want that dark idea to keep on making painful illusions for you. The proper response to any perceived accusation is only gratitude.

Guilt:

Because the only problem is guilty self-belief, healing what makes illusions of problems occurs through willingness to protect the innocent body and mind from being attacked mentally by your guilty self projections.

Parenting:

Correction of Errors

When it seems as if your kid made an error, and you’re willing to see that the only error is only in your perception, your perception gets corrected.

But if you make your kid’s error real and then try to correct it, the error in your perception gets protected, thus setting up your kid to make more errors in your perception.

All of your kid’s apparent errors get corrected naturally, as a result of you taking care of the upset feelings that cause you to perceive your kid darkly.

There’s no need to control whether you apparently help your kid do things better. This is not about action.

This is about watching your mind. Are you trusting in the appearance that your kid is acting on their own, or are you willing to be responsible for your perception of them?

Your kid will learn what they need to learn faster and easier without you making your perception of their errors real.

So it’s perfectly safe to bring worries, fears and other upset feelings to your inner teacher in order to learn your lessons, instead of avoiding your lessons by making yourself responsible for your kid’s learning process.

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Conventional thinking would have us continue projecting illusions of bad people who pose threats to our children rather than support us in finding out how to protect our children by eliminating what causes illusions of bad people and threatening behavior in the first place.

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Before they took on an apparent birth, your kids learned that they were guilty for having separated themselves from reality.
Their mortal body and its world are the effects of that self-taught lesson.

You can help them and yourself return your awareness to reality through your willingness to protect your shared innocence even when projecting guilt seems to be the only option.

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Fear of death is what causes you to become impatient.

It’s not that your child needs to hurry up or otherwise change their behavior.

You can choose to allow compassion for that fearful feeling instead of projecting it as if the problem is with your child.

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If you feel disrespected by your kid or anyone else, it’s a sign that you’re presently disrespecting yourself and you don’t want to see it.

In fact, you want to project it so that you can prevent yourself from seeing it.

If you are just a little bit willing to observe this mechanism, it will be revealed and healed.

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Your kids cannot really break anything or mess things up. It’s only your mind making that illusion.

You choose whether or not to make the illusion true. One is a choice for guilt and the other for innocence.

When you demonstrate that your child isn’t capable of breaking anything or messing things up, not only do they get to learn about what’s true from you, but your own perception gets a healing, thus shortening time and bringing Heaven closer to your awareness.

What Do You Really Want?

Taking toys away, or using other forms of manipulation (“discipline”) as a means of convincing your child to change their behavior, doesn’t solve anything.

It may seem to affect their behavior and help you feel better in the short term.

But it denies your potential to feel good regardless of how your child acts while demonstrating to your child that controlling and manipulating people’s behavior is the best way to get what they want.

Did you know that trying to convince children and other people to act differently is only a conditioned habit intended to make you feel better temporarily, but that same habit actually leads you deeper into despair?

I get that you may want to press upon your child the “realities” of the adult world, but that’s not the purpose for which your child shows up in your experience. Their purpose is to help you undo the adult-world thinking that’s actually making you unhappy, not to become a slave to that kind of thinking themselves.

In fact, your child shares the same purpose with you,
and you were aware of your purpose as a child, but your early experiences may
have caused you to deny yourself and become obedient to worldly wisdom instead.

The question to consider is
What do you really want?”. Would you
rather have miracles or masquerades? Heaven or the dream of death? Your answer
to these questions is evident in the way you react to your perceptions of bad behavior.

Don’t worry about what you
will do about your child’s behavior. All actions (yours and theirs) occur
automatically and they are perfectly
organized to bring about exactly the lessons you need to learn in order to
restore your mind to sanity
.

Through your willingness to
be aware of what motivates your reactions, you will become so disciplined in
the art of true forgiveness that the thought of imposing discipline on your child or anyone else will cease to have any
effects on
your
behavior
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What Are You Really Feeding Them

Just because you bought into the idea that food has real effects on the body doesn’t mean you have to hand down that painful self-belief to your kids, as if it’s true.

In fact, it’s irresponsible to make yourself or your kids responsible for what you seem to put into your bodies, and teaching that to your kids only encourages them to be irresponsible too.

Why is that irresponsible? Because you are responsible for ALL that you perceive, and if you are perceiving that one illusion (food) affects another illusion (body), it’s your responsibility to deny truth to that illusion.

It’s Denying truth to illusions, not teaching allegiance to them that heals the appearance of bodies that are vulnerable to sickness and death.

You can let eating be fun again and learn for yourself that all effects are mental if you’re just a little bit willing to give up false responsibility and embrace what’s really true.

I’m aware that this is a difficult concept for most people to consider, for the common person has been conditioned to believe that food has effects on the body, and such has become their experience. But just because you experience something in the illusory world does make it true.

In fact, the illusory world is set up to deny what’s true and to induce you to believe that you are a body that’s vulnerable to effects of the world, one of which is food. In fact, both body and world are effects of erroneous self-belief being projected by your own mind, and those effects are only being projected for the purpose of correcting the root cause. Said correction takes willingness to look upon what caused the worldly effects being perceived, but that cannot occur whilst you are insisting that the effects themselves are real.

Vaccine Deception

I can see why having an experience of vaccines causing harm would make it seem as if vaccines are a real threat. I also understand that healing the root cause of perceiving harm and threat of harm in the world is not for everyone at this time.

Most people would rather make threats and harmful things real and then try to correct them, which only guarantees more of the same. But such is the backward thinking of the world to which we have all been conditioned to have faith in and be faithful to.

To deny truth to illusions takes a certain degree of understanding of what really makes illusions of harm in the first place. This doesn’t mean not doing anything about it, but it does mean willingness to recognize that no one is capable of doing anything at all….That all doing is like a special effect of the mind…convincing people that they do things on their own and that they are responsible for what they do.

It’s allegiance to the idea of doership that’s rooted in attraction to perceiving a world of death, destruction, sickness, and victimization, which we can and will undo.

One by one, each of us will play out our roles in allegiance to the illusion until we can see through it and we are no longer motivated to make it real. It’s only a matter of time, but time can go on for what seems like forever for those who remain committed to making illusions true.

Said commitment causes people to look for solutions in the world, only to multiply suffering for themselves. When the power of commitment is transferred to denying truth to illusions, that when the cause of suffering begins to heal once and for all.

Some of us are in that final phase now, with numbers growing by the day. Anyone can enter, but it takes a certain willingness to surrender worldly wisdom.

My joy is to support and assist anyone who is ready to take that quantum leap. With much love and admiration for all beings.

Understanding the Feeling Effect

This is an advanced idea, but when it’s properly understood, you will never again be able to make yourself out to be weak, frail, sick or wanting without knowing how to heal it.

Firstly, to facilitate understanding, here’s a depiction of the order of things and terms being used here:

Self-Belief (concept of self extrapolated from the mistaken thought that you separated yourself from reality) ——->> Feeling Effect (visceral sensations that demonstrate the consequence of Self-Belief) ——->> Peripheral Effects (thought and thought forms projected outward from the Feeling Effect aka everything that can be perceived) ——->> Fixating on Peripheral Effects supports Self-Belief and the wheel goes round and round

The Feeling Effect is the first effect of Self-Belief. It’s a demonstration of the energy that’s presently being projected outward to make Peripheral Effects. This is very difficult to see as it seems to be the other way around – it seems that the Peripheral Effects are responsible for arousing the Feeling Effect.

Because of the seeming order of things, the conditioned habit is to deny the Feeling Effect and focus on giving reality to the Peripheral Effects as if they caused the Feeling Effect. Fixating on the Peripheral Effects is the habitual tendency and the device used to deny the Feeling Effect and support Self-Belief, which occurs by default.

Peripheral Effects have no meaning and their only function is to keep the mind distracted from attending to the Feeling Effect and thereby resolving Self-Belief.

It is only through embracing the Feeling Effect that Peripheral Effects lose power over the mind and Self-Belief gets healed.  Specifically, the mind can only learn that it’s a benefit and not a threat to release Self-Belief by going through the Feeling Effect.

For instance, feeling like one wants something (better health, more money, connection, freedom, etc) is caused by the Feeling Effect of Self-Belief, The habitual response is to fixate on the Peripheral Effect by agreeing with thoughts that seem to prove that something is really wanted, which supports Self-Belief.

In this way, the Feeling Effect gets resisted and time gets extended to accommodate more Peripheral Effects being made while protecting the Self-Belief.

Conversely, when the mind’s attention is consciously turned back toward the Feeling Effect, the underlying Self Belief gets resolved because it is not being supplied with the necessary energy in the form of thought projections that support it.

Accordingly, the Feeling Effect and Peripheral Effects are denied reality, happiness ensues, and time shortens.

Q: Why would anyone want to shorten time?

A: Because time is only necessary while there is allegiance to Self-Belief. Everyone really wants to return to timelessness, wherein there is no possibility of dreaming that life has an opposite.

Q: Without dreaming, isn’t there just nothingness, like a void.

A: No, that idea is based on fear of death and intentional forgetting of the world you thought you lost forever. The real world is an extension of eternal Life without an opposite and without conflict or the effects of time.

The Choice To Love

Your escape from this world depends on your acceptance of all “others” as your Savior. “Others” includes your body and projected mind (who you think you are).

There is truly no one other than yourself. The others that occur to you are only projections of mistaken self-belief.

Hating, attaching to them or fearing them makes the mistaken self-belief real for you, which ties you to this world. But loving them as yourself releases you.

How do you love all others as yourself? Watch how you seem to feel about them. That’s how the mistaken self-belief is making you feel about yourself.

The tendency is to hide from feeling the effects of mistaken self-belief by projecting those feeling effects onto others, but you can make another choice at any given moment.

The choice for your release from this dream of death takes a little bit of willingness to feel the effects of projecting for yourself.

How do you know when you’re projecting? There is a sense of irritation, uncomfort or pain, whether physical or emotional.

Any sense that denies joy is only upheld by your choice to project thought. It’s a conscious choice, although it’s common to consciously hide it from yourself as well.

Be mindful of your projecting and willing to feel it. Don’t try to stop projecting or argue with it, but turn your attention toward feeling, physical or emotional. Pinch yourself if you need to.

That’s all there is to it. Keep up with the practice and in time all of this will be undone and give way to what’s always been.